The Atlantic Magazine Explains Why Women Can’t Have it All.
Blogger Janeane explains what ALL means to her:
Second, my law school training comes out and makes me start the discussion with some definitions. Under the old definition of having it all a woman has it all if she has a wonderful marriage full of hot passionate sex four nights per week, a rewarding career with continuous advancement and beautiful well behaved award winning children with whom she is able to go to every school event, be classroom mom and is president of the parent teacher association. I have a different definition of having it all. If we define having it all, as I do, most women can have it all. I think a woman has it all if:
She has a satisfying marriage with a faithful and loving spouseShe has children she loves and cares forShe has interesting work that gives a measure of pleasure (this work can be in or outside of the home)
Let’s look at a typical day for a woman who works outside the home:
- work 9 to 5 so leave the house from 8 am to 6 pm each day
- arrive home and have dinner with the family 6 pm to 7 pm
- review homework with the children and help them prepare for school the next day 7 pm to 9 pm
- talk to spouse and spend quality time, perhaps thrown in a little marital relations 9 pm to 11 pm
- prepare for work the next day, do some household chore and go to bed 11 pm to 12 am
- sleep 12 am to 6 am
- wake up and get self and children ready for school and work 6 am to 8 am
This schedule does not leave a lot of room for anything. You will notice this woman has not worked overtime which is crucial to succeeding and moving up the corporate ladder in many career fields. This woman has not attended any PTA meetings. She has not taken her children to the playground or to the neighborhood library. In addition, she has not engaged in any enrichment activities with her children. She has not had date night with her husband. There may have been time for a quickie, but not a long, romantic night of love making. She has not worked out. While she may have had time for a shower, she did not have a lot of time for one of those good bubble baths with the pretty bubble bath, bath salts and lotion from Bath and Body Works. The schedule for the mom who stays at home to care for the house and family is just as busy and just as many hours are spent taking care of business and there is still not enough time for a whole lot of stuff under the old everything definition of having it all.